Family and Crisis

          Looking at the timing of this blog post, I am pretty sure that most of the readers must be spending their time at home with their families amid 21 days lock down. I am also sure that most of us must be enjoying movies, Games and most importantly the quality time with our loved ones. But after a point of time we go out of ideas to kill the time. I was super bored I was randomly searching for activities to do with family during ‘Crisis’, on internet, and the results were quiet stupefying. Among the many results, most mentioned about family crises and how to resolve them. Though none of the articles was of any concern to me, but one thing that swayed my mind was how the family crises have risen over the time creating distancing and disputes between one’s own family and the presence & heavy traffic on such search results itself is a proof to it.

         The Novel corona virus is one such major health crisis we all are going through right now. While most of us are spending time with our families during the lock down, there are many who lost their dear ones to this killer virus lately and the figure seem to grow as days pass. Not all of us are fortunate enough to spend time with our family and friends. There is unimaginable pain that a lot of us are going through right now when each day something or someone we love is being taken away by this pandemic. My sole purpose of writing this post is just to make you guys aware about how important is it to have a family during crisis.

                                                        

             Looking at the current scenarios where one can’t step out and has to obligatorily stay inside home, it’s obvious that this mandatory lock down has brought us an opportunity to relive the moments that we have missed so far. Right from the brunch to dinner, Movie time to Games; there is enough time to do all the stuff that we have been intentionally or unintentionally ignoring from a long time. There is nothing like a ‘wannabe cool’ family. Where there is a family there are issues always prevailing. Mostly the clashes of supremacy, misunderstandings and everyday hassles are ultimate source of family crisis mostly end up with partitions within the owns.

           Talking about our very own culture, even in conservative Indian society, there has been tremendous rise in family disputes and breakdowns. The family in India is often understood as an ideal unit with strong coping contrivance. Family being an important aspect to shape the individual image of a person, it has deep power to influence society at the same time. Family is an initial need of every depend person and major factor in their development, survival, education and protection. It has deep potential to revive and provide stability when there is problem. It not just nurtures on materialistically but is also a major source of emotional bonding and socialization.

          Now Imagine not having a family. At least we can presume and relate the thing with current situation. Imagine, you are stuck in a 21 days lock down. All you can do is stay at home, Explore the internet, eat and sleep. The people you are friends with are in the same situation. You may have your time away from studies, office, work to introspect and work on oneself. But after a point of time every human would feel doomed and lonely. Nobody to look after, nobody to care for you, again you’ll be left alone and depressed. Don’t you realize money now have no value? Even if you got millions of rupees you got nothing to buy because everything is closed. Even if you have a luxury car you can’t ride one. You have good pair of jeans, you probably can’t flaunt it because you can’t see anyone during this time. “living alone with an internet connection and unlimited food, yes I CAN SURVIVE IT” these words should be restricted to the meme world, because on social media memes might feel cool, but on ground it is practicality that works.

         People are busy living their lives, basically indulged in hectic jobs and other responsibilities to look after, hence leading to a short span of time to devote with kinfolks. Somewhere in this way of living life we have lost social and intrapersonal connect. Our priorities have changed, our perspectives have changed. We are undergoing gigantic changes like divorces, joint family separations, domestic violence, abuses and what not? These things clearly indicate our incompetence to deal with the constant pressures of the modern life.

          Even though we are far apart, we need each other more than ever. In times of health crisis, so does so does the time to talk. Tell your loved ones how you feel- your family, your friends and the ones who need to most. In this time of crisis, you will appreciate your memories and quality time with your friends and family. That’s the only thing we have got now. During this time and from this time, we should learn to humble our self. Respect each other’s thoughts and diversities. Life and relationship works with attitude of affection & dedication and not with simply negotiations.  It is good relationship and legacy that we will pass to the coming generation and this is the best time we have got. If you haven’t had communication with the family lately, this is the time. With the days passing with unexpected uncertainties, let us not waste the time. Because at the end you shouldn’t be left with regret and doubts.

           Yes, many of us might have issues in family. But I remember one small yet highly impactful dialogue from Bollywood movie ‘Prem Ratan Dhan Payo’:

Spiritual Guru H.G Gaurgopal Das ji quoted some words in one of his videos which perfectly suit with a family in crisis, the words are as follows:

“When you say sorry, it doesn’t mean you are wrong. It just means that you value the person and the relationship more than being right. You have to choose what do you want; being right or love? And if you want love, sometimes you have to say sorry, even if you are right.”

It’s the time. Go talk to your loved ones, create memories that you will cherish all your life.

Stay home, Stay safe.

-HARSHVARDHAN KABRA

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